Navigating the Minefield of Triangulation: A Guide for Enablers of Narcissists

Protecting yourself and your loved ones from manipulation and abuse

Being caught in the middle of a narcissist's manipulation tactics can be overwhelming, but it's important to protect yourself and your loved ones. Photo by cottonbro studio.

Are you constantly being pulled into the middle of conflicts between a narcissist and their loved ones? Do you find yourself being used as a source of support for false allegations and manipulation tactics? If so, you may be caught in the crosshairs of triangulation.

As a sibling, friend, or family member of a narcissist, it can be difficult to navigate the complex dynamics of their relationships. Often, you may find yourself caught in the middle of conflicts and manipulation tactics, being used as a source of support for false allegations aimed at the other parent. This is known as triangulation, and it is a common tactic used by narcissists to control and manipulate those around them.

It's important to recognize that as an enabler, you may be unknowingly providing the narcissist with narcissistic supply, or positive reinforcement for their behavior. This can be especially dangerous when it comes to co-parenting and child custody issues, as it can result in a distorted reality for the court and harm the well-being of the child.

To protect yourself and your loved ones from being used as a tool of triangulation, it's important to set healthy boundaries and communicate them clearly. This may involve limiting or ending contact with the narcissist, and seeking support from a therapist or support group who can help you understand and cope with the dynamics of narcissistic abuse.

It's also important to be mindful of the information you are being given and to verify it before taking any action. Narcissists are known for twisting the truth and manipulating facts to suit their needs. By fact-checking and seeking multiple perspectives, you can avoid being sucked into their false reality.

Additionally, it is crucial to be aware of the warning signs of triangulation, such as being frequently pulled into conflicts and being asked, compelled, or manipulated into taking sides. If you recognize these patterns in your relationship with the narcissist, it may be time to detach and prioritize your own emotional well-being.

In co-parenting situations, it may be helpful to seek the guidance of a therapist or legal professional who specializes in narcissistic abuse and co-parenting. They can provide you with the tools and resources needed to navigate the complexities of co-parenting with a narcissist and protect the well-being of your loved ones.

It's essential to remember that healing and moving forward is a process, and it's okay to take the time needed to heal and make changes in your life. By taking steps to detach and set boundaries, you can protect yourself and your loved ones from the destructive patterns of triangulation and narcissistic abuse.